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Utah Breastfeeding Coalition – August 9th 2012

The Utah Breastfeeding Coalition is a group of health professionals, public health organizations, educators, policy makers, employers and other community individuals and groups whose purpose is to collaboratively promote, protect and support breastfeeding in Utah. Thank you for your constant support and guidance during the breastfeeding café for the past seven years.

Highlight activities for the café: Remember to attend  La Leche League meeting from 10-12 and if  you have  questions on nutrition Patrice Isabella RD will be at the  café  to answer  your questions miss this  opportunity of advice form a Registered  dietitian . If you have questions or need breastfeeding support Edna Pitore WIC breastfeeding peer counselor will be at the café from 2-5 and if you want to apply for WIC the peer counselors can also inform you how.

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LLLI – August 8th 2012

La Leche League is an international nonprofit, nonsectarian organization dedicated to providing education, information, support, and encouragement to women that decide to breastfeed their baby’s. I want to give special acknowledgement to La Leche League for their support throughout the years and for bringing the breastfeeding café to our community for the 7th year. A successful exciting time that has become a tradition in salt lake to celebrate to the fullest the art of breastfeeding.

Highlight activities for the café: Elizabeth Smith from the University of Utah Hospital will be presenting on How Birth affects breastfeeding from 10-11am. WIC peer counselor Brenda Poprsenovic will be at the café for breastfeeding support and questions from 1-4pm and if you want to apply for WIC the peer counselors can also inform you how.

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WIC – August 7th 2012

Is important to know where to find breastfeeding help when you need it; the WIC breastfeeding peer counselors are a great resource to be aware of when extra support is needed. Please come to the breastfeeding café and meet these women full of experience for a free consultation during the café or any questions you may have feel free to ask for them at the café. Thank you for participating in this year’s breastfeeding café we love to have the peer counselors once again supporting the breastfeeding community in celebrating nature’s way of feeding your baby.

Highlight activities for the café : May Sobieralski Teen mom specialist from the  WIC peer counselors  team will be at the  café from 10-5pm if you are a  teen mom or know one that needs  support come to the café and meet  with Mary she  is fantastic. Rita Williams WIC Peer counselor will be at the café from 1-4:30pm.

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Silent Auction – August 6th 2012

 

“Nursing Mother of the Pink Camellias” Kathy Grossman

Participate in our silent auction bid on your favorite item. This year we have; Two beautiful paintings from Kathy Grossman, Nursing On The Porch and Nursing Mothers of the Pink Camelliasa Hand Knitted Lamb w/ Dress, a Soaker Organic Merino Wool Blue 0-6m, a Soaker Organic Merino Wool Pink 0-6mMini Potrait Session with Landslide PhotographyOne 10 week Session of Music Together from Imagination PlaceTwo single Anti-Gravity Yoga Classes from Imagination Place, a SleepyWrap from NAP Inc.5 coupons to Thai Lotus, a $15 Gift Card to Les Madeleines, a $25 gift card to Liberty Heights Fresh, a $20 gift card to Earth Goods, and a Private Lactation Consult with Karin Hardman, IBCLC.

Highlight activities for the café: Come and join the new moms circle from 10-12 pm socialize and share your experiences of motherhood and breastfeeding in a friendly environment . Heidi rich will be presenting and exciting topic Parent sign language join us for this informative event.

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Education – August 5, 2012

Every year the Breastfeeding café has teachers that volunteer their time and expertise to teach a topic of interest during the café. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of the mothers that participate in your respective sessions. The core of the café is what is offered during operations and these classes are fundamental for the full experience of the breastfeeding café. Quote: “Knowledge is power. Information is liberating. Education is the premise of progress, in every society, in every family”. Kofi Annan

Highlight activity for the café: Join IBCLC Nicole Bershaw at the café an expert that can answer your questions and complex breastfeeding needs.

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Expectant Mothers Circle – August 4th, 2012

Please join La Leche League and other mothers at the park for the Big Latch On is from 10:30-10:31am. Registration begins at 10am. All of the mini cafes begin at 9am; we encourage participants to be there well before registration to keep things less complicated. Liberty Park, Lone Peak Park, and Murray Park women around the nation will be breastfeeding for I minute in all areas of the country a great event to reinforce that breastfeeding is best feeding method for babies.

Highlight activities for the café: Expectant Mother’s Circle from 10-12 come and share your excitement for breastfeeding and your plans to feed your baby the best “breast milk”.

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Mini Cafés & Big Latch On – August 3rd 2012

 

Don’t forget  to attend  this  year’s  mini cafés/Big Latch On in the park  an event  to make  a statement  to the  community that breastfeeding is  nature’s way . The locations of the mini cafes are as follow: Liberty park 9:00 am to 12 Pm — Lone peak park 9:00 am to 1:00 pm — Murray Park 9:00 am – 12:00 pm. Come and join us there will be a time to meet other mothers that breastfeed socialize and learn from each other. Look for the banner and you will find us looking forward to seeing all of you at the park.

Highlight activity for the café: Tricia Lewandowski presenting Infant Massage from 1-2pm a unique personal way of calming your baby and finding time for bonding don’t miss it. 

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Great Leadership Behind the Scenes – August 2nd 2012

 

For an event  of this magnitude to be a  success there  is always great leadership behind  the  scenes  that coordinate and plan all the details  for the breastfeeding Café  every year . I want to thank with great appreciation to the Breastfeeding Café committee members that worked so hard on their own time to put together such a great program this year.

Highlight activities for the café:  La Leche league meeting from 10-12 Pm

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Thank You For Your Support – August 1st 2012

 

I would like to highlight the volunteers that make  the  operations  of the breastfeeding café possible without you there  would  not be  a café. Your dedication and  willingness to give some of your time to reinforce  that breastfeeding is the best  for babies  mothers  and a the whole family. Thank you for your support.

Highlight activities for the café:  Natasha Boss presenting the basics of kefir from 10-11 am WIC breastfeeding peer counselor Tasha Wood from 2-5pm.

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Became Wiser About Breastfeeding – July 30

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Blog Carnival for 2012. For more information on the Breastfeeding Cafe, check out this site. If you would like to participate in this year’s carnival, just post on your personal blog and put a link in the comment section below.  To receive email updates for next year, contact Timbra landslidephotography {at} hotmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about how you’ve become wiser about breastfeeding. Please read the other posts in today’s carnival listed in the comments section of this post. The Carnival runs July 16th through the 31st!

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Krystyna Bowman, AAHCC strives to be a blissful mother to four children (2 daughters, 2 sons) and she is the wife of a very patient man.  She and her husband, Bruss, are Bradley Method® of Natural Childbirth instructors.  The Bowman family lives in Chandler, Arizona.  They enjoy sharing the joy of childbirth with other families and they celebrate every Sweet Pea and their birth.  Krystyna’s blog “Sweet Peas, Pods and Papas” covers many topics around pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding.  You can find her other Carnival posts atwww.sweetpeabirths.com/blog

 

Today’s Prompt:If you have more than one child, how have you become wiser :)? How did your first nursing experience shape your thoughts, ideas, plans, views, etc for your future nursing experiences?

 

 

Krystyna Bowman

 first nursing relationship taught me a lot of lessons that have encouraged me and grown me as a human being.  When I nursed our first-born, I found that breastfeeding was painful, I felt like I was in a minority and I felt ashamed to nurse in public. Now I am a proud lactivist, confident in my choice to breastfeed.  I am ready to kindly and gently challenge people’s perceptions about why we nursing mamas do what we do to feed our children. 

 I have joyfully nursed three other children since our daughter was born in 2005.  We have a son born in 2007, we met another son in 2009, and we just welcomed another daughter in 2011.  All the lessons I learned with our first child have grown my confidence in our choice to breastfeed our other children:

  • –       Trust your instincts
  • –       MotherBaby are one unit living in two bodies
  • –       Be flexible
  • –       Do not apologize for your choices
  • –       Common does not mean it’s normal

 Our children have taught me that when I make choices out of love for them, and when we as parents make choices together, we can confidently stand by our choices for our family.

 Here is our story:

 I grew up watching my mother nurse my siblings.  When we got pregnant with our first child, it was a foregone conclusion that I would breastfeed.  We got a few pointers in our childbirth classes, and as part of that curriculum, my husband and I attended a La Leche League meeting together.  We expected that there was going to be a learning curve and that I would experience something called “engorgement”.

 Baby arrived.  Surprise!  Breastfeeding did not feel natural!  It hurt!  It made me cry!  I wanted to give up!  At the same time, I was motivated to persist in my efforts by our satisfied baby that was growing and thriving from my milk .  So I persevered through the discomfort and the pain until it went away. Eventually I got comfortable nursing in public covered by a receiving blanket so I would not offend anyone.

 Our pediatrician told me to introduce solids at six months.  Dutiful mother who wanted to be a good patient and follow “doctor’s orders” tried the commercial baby foods.  They made our baby sick.  So my husband and I talked and agreed to stop with the jars and “wait-and-see” if baby would continue to thrive on my milk.  She did well – no more throwing up and cranky disposition.  We had our sweet baby back, thriving on exclusive breastfeeding.

That instance of going against “doctor’s orders” gave me my first boost of confidence – it was okay to follow my mothering instinct instead of “professional advice”.  I knew my child: I had carried her for 39 weeks and 4 days when I was pregnant.  I spent most waking moments with her, and sleeping ones as well.  We were the MotherBaby and I knew what my other half did and did not like.  Lesson one:  Since we were a Healthy Mom, Healthy Baby, it was okay to trust my instincts above anything else.

My second lesson was accepting that we, the MotherBaby, were indeed one unit.  Back then I did not know that it was called Attachment Parenting.  I knew that our daughter and I were happy together.  My husband was happy to see both of us happy together.  He was happy to hold a baby that liked to be held.  She was a baby that hardly ever cried and observed the world with her watchful eyes.  I politely acknowledged the people that told me I was holding her too much, that I was going to spoil her.  On the inside, it strengthened my resolve to trust that we were making the best decision for our family.  The MotherBaby unit worked for or family – everyone was happy, everyone slept, life moved on and our baby did not get spoiled.  Today she is a fiercely independent seven-year old (going on 25!).

 My third lesson was that flexibility is a great parenting tool.  We had learned to be flexible through our birth experience.  It did not stop there.  We decided our lifestyle was easier to change than it was to force our baby to fit into our needs and desires.  Our baby changed how much time it took to go places.  She influenced our choice of activities.  She changed how we travelled.  In such a blessed way, living through all her firsts enhanced our lives immeasurably and we embraced our new life as a family of three.

 This flexibility served me well in relation to our breastfeeding relationship.  I initially thought that I would nurse her until her first birthday.  Then I would be done and I would throw myself back into my career outside the home.  As her first birthday approached, I realized that neither she nor I was ready to stop nursing altogether.  Although she was comfortable eating table foods by then, she and I both enjoyed nursing when she woke up in the morning, for naps, and before bedtime.

 I realized that although there were some things I could still control about our daily life, our breastfeeding relationship was not one of the things that I wanted to control.  As we celebrated her first birthday I became aware of how quickly time passes with our children.  I had the epiphany that our children are actively in our lives until they are pre-teens.  Then they start to move into the sphere of their friends.  Before we know it, they are moving out of our homes to pursue careers or schooling.  I did not want to stick to our twelve-month plan.  Why force a separation, especially one at such a tender and sweet age?

 My stubborn nature came into play again.  When people questioned me, it made me even more determined to follow my instincts and do what was best for our child.  If you are an extended nurser, you know the questions people ask. “You are still nursing?”  or, “How long are you going to nurse?”  How about this one, “Why are you still nursing if (s)he can ask for it?”  My “favorite”, usually in the form of a statement: “You are just doing this for yourself.”  I gave the same answer that I gave when people asked why we chose natural childbirth, babywearing, or co-sleeping: “This choice works for us and our family.”

 In those five words, I accept the mantle of responsibility for our choices and our family.  I hope that it relieves the guilt or feelings of judgment that other people may feel because their story is different, whether by choice or circumstance.  There are those who cannot accept that answer, and that is okay.  I am not going to change their minds anyway, so I save my energy and do some deep breathing!  

 The last lesson I learned the hard way.  All three of our older children caused the same pain when feeding on my left breast.  I could kick myself: it took until our third child to learn that something about our birth experiences was causing our babies difficulty when positioned to nurse on my left.  Our third child got an adjustment when he was ten days old.  One visit to our chiropractor for a pediatric adjustment and I was in heaven!  It eased the discomfort that did not allow him to turn his head comfortably.  He stopped stripping my nipple and chomping on the nerve that made me cry every time.  I learned that nursing could be pain-free and tear-free when baby is a newborn if you seek help at the beginning. 

 Now I am a childbirth educator.  I tell our students that while breastfeeding is a learned behavior, and that although it is common for it to hurt, “Common does not mean it’s normal.”  The lesson I learned the hard way was that a mom should not ignore pain during breastfeeding.  Seek help as soon as possible so that your breastfeeding experience improves sooner than later.

 Not all situations warrant a visit to a chiropractor.  If you are experiencing pain or difficulties of any kind, get help now.  You can make an appointment with an IBCLC certified Lactation Consultant.  Another option is to talk with a La Leche League (LLL) leader or attend a LLL meeting in your area as soon as possible.  These options offer support, encouragement and a variety of information and tools to lead you in the direction of problem solving your situation.  Generally an IBCLC charges for their time.  LLL has a time-honored tradition of peer-to-peer counseling offered at no charge.

 Today I am nursing our child about to turn three as well as our nine-month old.  I remind myself of my “epiphany moment”.  I never imagined that our journey into tandem nursing would last this long.  I expected our third child to wean sometime between 15 months and 22 months like his siblings did.  He is re-writing my parenting experiences by simply refusing to give up his daily nursing session.  Sometimes he pushes for two, and when the timing works out, he is a happy person.

 I have lost my shyness about nursing in public anymore.  I thank all the women who have gone before me. They claimed breastfeeding as the “normal”, and they advocate for our society to accept breasts as food sources above all their other uses. I was covered from my neck to my ankles when I fed our first-born in public.  Now I am a big fan of the blouses designed to nurse discreetly in public without having to use a nursing cover.  I hope to lend confidence to other mothers so that they come out of the restrooms and the uncomfortable corners, and so that maybe one person’s mind is changed about the real function of our breasts: they have functions outside of being sexualized and their use as marketing tools.  Their primary function is to be the original source of “perfectly formulated” food for our children.

 My favorite anecdote is from a friend who could not breastfeed her children.  Heretofore, their feeding paradigm was bottle-feeding.  After hanging around with our family, her daughters started to nurse their baby dolls instead of bottle-feeding them. I did not expose my breasts to them, or lecture them on the benefits of breastfeeding.  The shift happened because I nursed when the baby showed signs of hunger.  It was an acceptance that came from simply doing what I was doing for the baby, without shame or apology.

 I am grateful that the choice to breastfeed has been a joyful one for our family.  I wish all you mamas peace in the choices you make for your family.  Aspire to make your choices with intention and remember that we are all growing and learning together.  Write your story with confidence that you are doing the best that you can for your child(ren) and that you are shaping the best path for your family.

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